I watched this movie the other night, and it got me thinking. Have any of you seen Don Jon? I felt somewhat intrigued to watch it, mainly to see what interested him in porn so much , not because I’m a porn addict, to be honest I’m not fond of it. It made me think about how people lose themselves in others, and not just others but within the things they do.
Then I started thinking about myself, and for some reason something clicked in my head. I wasn’t sure what it was that happened within me, something he mentioned about losing himself that made me realise how important it is to love and better yourself throughout your life.
For a couple of days I was on a high, and since I analyse my dreams it felt as though the content in them changed the night I had the realisation as though it was something important that I had to learn, even if it was something as small as a realisation like that.
Also, if you remember that book I was reading about listening to depression? (Which I am waiting for in the mail currently) I think it has some truth to it. Because when I finally listened to myself, I realised that I have lost myself in a lot of things and it made me realise how important again it was to love myself. This might sound stupid but that night I was thinking about my life and I told myself I was sorry for how I had treated myself, and that I would try and do better than I had been and then I hugged myself. And comforted myself. And it felt as though part of the sorrow I had felt had lifted, despite it still being there, I understood myself more than I had before.
As days have gone by, it has been hard not to fall back into past occurrences, like numbing myself with food, or by watching my favourite movies. At least I am partly aware now why I do those things. And despite liking both food and TV, having them in my life in order to numb myself is not something I want to do, because it sucks the joy out of them. And I think that’s why I think I have lost so much joy out of my life because I have been focusing on numbing myself rather than helping myself, and I am consciously trying not to do that any more. Because it is important to treat yourself better than that.
Now, I haven’t cured myself of my depression, but I have slightly lessened it, because I am feeling more motivated to do things that help me. And I think that helping yourself and getting help when you need it are both very important things to learn in your life.
What I am trying to say is, small moments like these can help you understand not only yourself better, but why you are sad so much more. It teaches you what is important in your life. And that is something that makes you stronger, because you know what to do to build your strength up.
I think these kind of moments are different for everyone, but knowing they are possible at any moment in time, give you that little bit of hope that things will get better and that you will be able to understand why you are upset so that you can learn from these things, build them into your life and then form yourself into a better you. Into a person that will get through this and a person that is capable of living a fulfilling and exciting life. Because in order to get better, in my opinion, you will have to change so you can grow into something much more than you are.